Growing Through My Grief

Grief is one of those topics many people shy away from. Why, you might ask? Well, our grief will often make others uncomfortable. What many people fail to realize is that grief is not only normal, but it is the natural reaction we have to the loss of any kind.

As I have coached and counseled people over the years, I invite them to experience their grief and recognize, they will be able to notice some observable growth in themselves through the process.

Think about it, if the caterpillar didn't struggle to get out of the cocoon (I think it's actually called a chrysalis), it would not develop into a healthy butterfly. Helping that butterfly emerge from it will get it out quicker, however, it will literally cause it to be crippled and unable to fly.

Butterflies are like snowflakes, each one is unique. Although some of their patterns look similar, they are not. Each one was created through their own individual metamorphosis and struggle emerging from the cocoon. Their struggle is part of what creates their beauty and gives them the ability to fly.

In a similar ways, we experience some transformation in our grieving. Each of our grief is specific and unique to us. While we may walk through similar circumstances our outcomes will never be identical.